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Why I took time off to learn how to be me again (Content Warning)

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Years ago I had a minorly successful blog and 2 businesses that I all walked away from when my chronic illness made it impossible to fake my way through it anymore. I fought hard to stay in the game, even transitioning from a photography career to bookkeeping. Yes a number cruncher who starred at screens day in and day out and loved it! What I didn’t love, again, was the interactions with others where I needed to “pretend” I was ok all the time, that “professional mannequin” most of us become.

I longed for a way to continue doing the things I loved, any of them, but aspects of an activity or career path interrupted me from taking care of me and being honest about the person I am now. Every move was robotic, trying to just get through and in turn I had to let go of me because there was no room, no energy (spoonies I know you understand).

Everything had a place and structure in my life (I have OCD) and when I lost that control the energy was placed into projects, homeschooling, and even this blog. I felt like I was in there still, but not listened to in a long time. I muted myself and no longer knew what I wanted or who I was as a person, this person.

I kept quiet about the struggles I was facing, the illnesses and flares were handled silently within my home, and my medical marijuana use was done almost in shame off in a corner of my home quietly trying to feel better. I hit rock bottom last year spending most days in bed or on the sofa because everything was too painful and it was then in the most misery I began searching for any beacon of light.

I’m the lucky one because I have a tight support system and those boys love to remind me to think about myself almost daily and rush to take tasks off my plate so I have energy for me. Thanks to the closeness last year has brought us, this constant drip of an idea of self love and acceptance began the set in.

Slowly, I came out of my self induced shell this year and accepted me as I am now; a person with chronic pain and illnesses, a person who suffers from mental illness, a person who uses marijuana daily to treat pain, and someone who is still smart, funny, loving, adventurous, and best of all; a good mom and wife despite my trials.

So take that self, we are done being quiet, never really suited us anyway.

Abandon the Box has always been about finding new ways to be better and enjoy life so the only way I know how to authentically do this is by sharing my struggles with pain and health issues as well as those impacts on my family. This also means this will be a space where topics like opioids, marijuana use, abuse within the medical system, and other mental/physical health topics. We appreciate those who like, comment, and follow but also understand these are triggers for some and not topics everyone enjoys reading about and thank you for stopping by.

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lifestyle Wellbeing

How & why to give up your car in 2021

Cars are expensive and needy. Between insurance, maintenance, gas, and other upkeep they take a huge portion of our monthly budgets and time. According to the U.S. Census Bureau the average American spends 52.2 minutes on a back and forth commuting daily. So many drivers are stuck and unhappy sitting behind the wheel rushing from point A to point B day in and day out. We have seen a regular uptick in traffic and crowded roadways every single year with nearly 3,000 deaths annually due to distracted driving (CDC).

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lifestyle

15 things to do when creating next year’s budget

Starting a new budget can be a difficult undertaking, so why wait? Budgets are necessary for any income level and any lifestyle because you should always know where your money is going, you are in charge.

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lifestyle Wellbeing

20 Things I’ve done in 2020 that I’ve never done before

Throughout this year I’ve jokingly said “well it’s 2020 so who knows” to any odd, inconvenienced, or bad thing that has come up. It has become one of “those years” for most of us. While new experiences are a good thing there are many things that most of us have done in 2020 that we never expected, never wanted, or never needed. Either way what happened has happened and I found it a fun exercise to reflect on all the new experiences I’ve had this year and the ways I’ve needed to change and adapt.

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Update w/ links

Our blog is getting a separation and we want you to spend equal time at both mom & dad’s! Sorry for the bad joke but we don’t want to lose our readers.

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lifestyle Wellbeing

How to burn the most calories while riding your biking

Biking is a great form of exercise; our go-to recreation and workout for many reasons. Not only biking something almost any age can enjoy and participate in but there are so many ways to maximize your workout and get the most burn for your effort while having fun, and fitness should always be fun. Here are a few of our tried and true methods to help you stay fit while enjoying the ride.

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Florida

Largo Central Park Nature Preserve- The Wildlife Watchers Paradise

Many conjure visions of dazzling lights and bold displays for Christmas and other seasonal festivals when thinking of Largo Central. What they may not know is that with a quick drive, walk, or bike ride you can be transported outside of what seems to be a concrete world and into an untouched land of wildlife happily doing its thing.

This beautifully positioned and little known preserve opens up the world of nature untouched by man and places it in the hands of those who may otherwise not see it or maybe not care but can’t help to once inside.

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Florida

The Florida Aquarium in Tampa

Gigantic floor to ceiling aquariums, wildlife settings with birds and aquatic life inches away, and a chance to see and learn more about some of the most exotic creatures we all secretly love just around the corner. The Florida Aquarium is a great way to take in all of that magic and escape the every day.

There’s something so serene here as you wander down the corridors, light changing and bouncing through the glass surrounds. Gigantic fish almost fly past you and seem surreal until there it is, the shark you have been hoping for. In all his glory only separated by glass there the predator of the sea swims by as if you weren’t even there, allowing ample time to observe before moving on to the next great thing.

In all of our visits to the Florida Aquarium we have always loved the sharks tank, Moonbay, and Wetland Trail. This is a must see when visiting the Tampa Bay area.

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A Time For Tea

Tea time has been known for centuries as a social time, a time for tradition, for health, self-care, and a time for comfort. Tea time is my time. It’s been a long week but I know stealing a moment to regain my Zen is always within reach.

Baby, it’s cold outside. No, not really, I live in Florida but we can pretend.
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Florida

3 Days in the Everglades for under $300

Recently, like so many of us, we decided to get away; and so we did. The Florida Everglades have been on our bucket list for way too long and what better timing than during a pandemic where being distanced and outdoors is essential. Most of our trips are preplanned because frankly that’s my personality but this one was thought out 2 days before and on a VERY tight budget though didn’t feel like it for one second (and that’s time & money spent well).